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<p>what is that magical age when you reach it you become invisible ? As a man you notice things , inside your self you feel 25 but girls of 25 do not want to have a coversation with you. Old friends ignore your e-mails. No one bothers to call you anymore even if you call them a few times a year. " out of site out of mind' is the old saying.</p><p> People you have known all your life refuse to listen to your MP3 's that you send or CD 's that you carefully mail , they sit collecting dust on some kitchen cabinet or office table. Even friends you have made in more recent times no longer listen to your songs they become too involved in their own trials and tribulations . They instictively know you have reac hed the age of irrelavance .</p><p> tell them about a new web site where you have a lot of new songs and it becomes to difficult for them to find your page . Send them a direct link and maybe they will click on it maybe not .</p><p>Music means many things too many people in many different ways . Un fourtunately so does life . when you reach that magic age of irrelavence it can at first be a shock but such is life . In a society that worships the very young you just don't have a place anymore . Your music is " old timey "</p><p> Your thoughts , your insights are drowned in a sea of new want to be talents . Your only hope is live performance for a few straggling old timers that clap enthusiasticaslly and then shuffle back to their closets until the next years wine festival.</p><p> What is that magical age when life looses its wonder and becomes a series of plodding events leading to invisibilty ?</p>
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I found this with my morning coffee...
"magical age" and nobody hears or cares anymore?
Friends don't care and music success is for the young?
Young girls won't talk to you?
Man all those things were happening when I was young!
When I was young...My friends could care less about my music...they went to the gigs for the girls. My friends could care less if the girls could talk...breathing and looking fine was the only thing that really mattered.
Man the "magical age" starts shortly after high school...you know it's true...you show at the party and everyone looks at you like you're old.
I doubt after my coffee and I'm fully awake that my opinion will change - I'm glad I made it through the years to be enjoying all the new things in life such as the "digital age". I enjoy experienced, women that can hold their own in a conversation or otherwise.
As for friends...I've always believed if one dies with one true friend,one had a good friend.
Music, playing guitar in general, started at the young age of seven with me. I enjoyed playing the guitar. I play for the same reason now...I can say 47 years later I'm still playing because I enjoy it. It is a great pleasure for another to enjoy my playing but that is not the reason I play guitar. Playing for the enjoyment of others such as writting and recording songs to post or playing gigs is not the driving force behind my playing. They are factors that effect my playing but not the reasons that I play.
Breakfast is ready...Sunday and another nice day to hang around and play some guitar.
Best regards,
Michael
Well....Everybody who knows me, knows I just lay my feelings out....SO!!!! I've said it a million times.....I don't have friends anymore, only work acquiantances. I have my family, who BTW, don't like my music and would rather I don't spend so much time on the computer, which has been cut back. SO!!!! ALL of my friends and listeners are HERE, on the internet. That's it! I have established some, what I believe to be good "internet freindships". I get replies to my e-mails, my "friends" listen to my music and I enjow peace and happiness with this part of my life.
I gave away 5 CD's, about a 1 1/2 ago and asked those people a few months ago if they ever listened to them......I got a very wishy-washy reply........to which I gave up hope. These people had expressed interest in what I was doing, but when push came to shove.......the response was NILL. Funny thing was, I didn't even expect a positive response, so I didn't care and moved on to my dream world, on the net.
SO!! At least a little "postive comment" in a review is a small motivating human response and should always be appreciated and NOT shrugged off, as a "pat on the back".
Rob Grant
Really well written blog, David, and sentiments that I have shared myself over a number of years.
Some of my closest friends can't bring themselves to listen to my offerings. Maybe they're showing exquisite taste. Maybe, because they're so close, they don't want to accept that I am doing something creative and they're not. Jealousy plays a part in all sorts of relationships. By the same token, one of my closest friends will not listen to anything I record, but will always turn up for live gigs. I work on the basis that he's just weird.
But there are degrees of friendship. I have developed friendships with a lot of people on OMDs. Once I had an OMD where I could access lots of music from people I loved, present company included. Then things fall apart, and now I find myself trying to spread myself among three to four OMDs none of which is individually as satisfying as that old home. And posts like yours make me realise the friends that I don't have as much contact with as I would like.
Sadly, David, I don't know the answer. I'm pleased to have read your post because I realise that I've allowed a friendship that was important to me slip away. Hope I can cure that, but, sorry I can't cure the overall problem of your blog. In reality, maybe your friends don't want you to succeed beyond the range of your friendship. That's a gross generalisation, as many friends will be incredibly supportive. But I can't believe how so much that you said in the blog rang true.
I guess the other side of the issue is that people who aren't doing what we're doing may not necessarily appreciate how their response, or lack thereof, affects us. By being musicians we have something of an obsession. We maybe expect too much of others to expect them to share that obsession.
I've just been watching a DVD I made of a live performance earlier in the year. I noticed a familiar voice say "great song". This person has had all my CDs in various forms but has never really ever listened to them. I can understand that. He has a job, a family and other things to keep him occupied. I was really pleased to pick that out of the DVD because until then I assumed that, because of the absence of comment, he didn't like what I was doing. In reality, though, I was giving him my Cds when I was excited about them, without reference to his own situation. I found in my winter overcoat the other day a CD that another friend/artist had given me at a gig last year. I've never listened to it.
Hope this all makes sense. The overall point I'm trying to make is that we are obsessed with our creations. We want others to be, and expect that certain people will be. We get hurt when they're not. But we still look at things from our own perspective.
Cheers
Brian
wow... You might be inside of my head... I've felt these very same sentiments, especially with the whole "CDs collecting dust" friends ignoring emails, always being the one making the phone calls and never receiving them...it's sad in many ways, but I like to think that those dust collectors don't really mean to let so much collect..and I like to think the being ignored is unintentional, but yeah, it would be nice to not have to ask "So, did you listen to my CD yet?" over and over. But I think probably all of us feel irrelevant to some extent at some point in our lives, so at least in that, we're not alone!
Very good,But if there is and age like that I hope we never fined it.
I think we here at mix... can fined it here and never have to worry about that age.\